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House Call
This is a text conversation my boss (company owner, no less) had with
me after I’d been on the job a total of three months. A little
background: I worked 13-hour night shifts as a guard with a 3-hour
(combined) commute 4-5 days a week, then was expected to work as THE
marketing manager during daytime hours the entire week. This was one
of my nights off guard duty.
Boss (1:32AM): You still awake?
Me: Yes, did something come up? You need me to go check on a site?
Boss: No, I was wanting to talk. I’m lonely.
Me: Err, are YOU okay?
Boss: Hey, you said you were having trouble with your alternator, you
want me to take a look at it?
Me: I’m going to go into the shop tomorrow if my car will make it
there, you’re welcome to look at it before I go if you really want.
Boss: No, I mean right now.
Boss: Wait, never mind.
Me: Yeah, it IS kinda late.
Boss: No it’s just that it’d be like you were making a house call,
haha.
Me: What? Excuse me?
Boss: You coming to my place at night. Things happen at night, you
know?
Me: Call me naive, but if I went anywhere to have my car looked at,
I’d be expecting you to look at my CAR.
Boss: My wife is out of town, I snuck some alcohol. I feel young
again, you know? I want to do crazy things.
Me: How is she? [Trying to steer subject awaaaaayyyy.]
Boss: What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done?
Boss: You should really come over.
Me: Well, I jumped off a waterfall once.
Boss: I really want to talk to you, come over. But you have to
promise you won’t tell anyone what we do.
Boss: Say*
Me: Sir, you should probably get some sleep.
Boss: You should come over. You’re so smart, and so pretty.
The next morning:
Boss: Hi.
Me: In light of last night’s conversation, consider this my
resignation, effective immediately.
After that, he tried to belittle me, then told me he didn’t want me
and had never wanted me “sexually” and that I should excuse him from
everything because he was drunk. He told me I was handling things
childishly. Because we had still been in the process of discussing
payment for a work project I was doing I had done a lot of work for
him for free. I took all of that project off the work laptop before
turning it in; he proceeded to have my laptop snooped at a local
computer store and swore to everyone who listened that I’d never done
any work for him. His wife found out, and he twisted it around to get
her to believe I came onto HIM (EWW!). So, I kept the work I’d done
instead of asking for payment, and dropped the ball on all the
contacts I’d been working with for multi-million dollar contracts.
What I really should have done was filed a sexual harassment suit;
this assclown was stupid enough to have put it all down in writing!
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let’s see, 13 hour night shift + 3 hour commute + 8 hour day shift = 24 hours. yeah, that’s believeable.
No. What you really should have done is end the conversation as soon as you realized it wasn’t business related. Like three texts in. And what you really should have done is act like a professional instead of like a spoiled child. Removing data from company property that the company has rights to is not professional. Do you blame him for trying to have it recovered? If there was an outstanding debt owed to you, there are legal channels you could have gone through to receive payment. Keeping a copy of the project, which shows that you did the work, would have been all the proof you needed.
Ok, you obviously are the poster of the previous story and this one based on the details of the commute and similar condescending writing style. You are a big huge pushover of a human being. Something also tells me you have issues that the world should conform to your standards. You even stated that you had to spend time in the hospital, and had to ask family for help with rent. Why were you stupid enough to rent a place working at a coffee shop? You made poor choices and you must be not that attractive if the boss’s wife believed you came onto him, usually younger fug girls do that. Toughen up, stop depending on your family for things and quit being such a pansy pushover.
Dang…I think you missed out on some serious cash from a lawsuit with this one =)
The little background you provided was useless to this story. It didn’t really matter much. And I’m wondering why you work 13 shifts as a guard (security???) and then work day time as a marketing manager….Not enough employees?
Just more proof that “gay marriage” isn’t about them getting married, it’s about destroying a non-gay institution. I haven’t seen a gay yet that won’t do someone at the drop of a hat.
Hopefully you at least forwarded that text convo to his wife after the fallout….
Hey…didn’t you post the previous story? That person got a new job working 13 hour shifts and had a 3 hour commute. Coincidence? Chronic bull shitter? The plot thickens…
Who doesn’t work 24 hour shifts!?
Hey George, bigot much?
1. There’s no indication of whether the OP was a woman or a man. You’re assuming the OP was a man because of the type of job.
2. Let’s just say that yes, OP and the boss were both men. Wouldn’t gay marriage allow the gay boss to not have to marry a woman as a “smokescreen”? Wouldn’t he be free to marry a man, instead of lying to his wife about his orientation and violating his wedding vows in order to express his true identity?
3. What makes you think gays invented infidelity?
I must be off. It appears that the OP posted before. I didn’t catch that…
But i am curious why you wear two hats at once. As a security guard and as the marketing manager. How the F does that work? Seriously !?
@George Johnson …. what tangent have you gone off on? Your comment is totally off the mark and irrelevant to this story! We don’t need your ignorance and biased comments on this site – we already have enough thank you!
To the OP and anyone else who has been in a similar situation: This is sexual harassment and should have been reported. I hope in the future that if you are treated like this that you won’t put up with it. No one should have to!
@George Johnson: what the hell are you talking about? You are aware that the OP is female, right?
Yeah, you’re the same person who posted the previous story about making the stupid decision to live with your boss and remain in the situation even though it reportedly put you in the hospital somehow.
Seems to me that every job is you have had so far is terrible to you and that you are the victim every time. Have you noticed the common thread here? It’s you. You make bad decisions. You are the common denominator. You are the source of most of the problems in your own life.
Exercise good judgment, use your brain, and things will get better for you.
@George, where does the posting say anything about anybody being gay? I went back and read the story a second time. ‘Splain, please.
why the hell didn’t you jut stop texting him as soon as you understood it wasn’t work related? It was by text for fuck sake, you had all your time to find a good excuse to stop this conversation instead of carrying on or trying to change the subject
lets be 100% honest here.
you have to say “no” if you feel uncomfortable in a situation, not lead the person who is sexually harassing you on. it isn’t sexual harassment if you continue the conversation.
yes, your boss was really creepy, but you have absolutely no right to claim anything was wrong with the conversation if you didn’t end it.
Coulda, Shoulda, Woulda……never did.
Kay – You are wrong. Under the law, an employee does not have to say “no” when harassed by an employer. The employee could be afraid that saying “no” would jeopardize their job. However, since this was an isolated incident, and the employee resigned before it could be clear if there was any further behavior that would create an uncomfortable work environment, I doubt this would have been a successful sexual harassment claim.
If ifs and buts were candies and nuts, then every day would be ute donkfest
Just coming back to add to this: Yes, the boss had extreme expectations of me. He would call me during time when I was trying to sleep before the next shift to see if I was working. Also, I never said that the marketing/sales side was 8 hours (so your math is a little off). I do believe I also stated that guard shifts lasted 4-5 days giving me 2-3 days “off” just for marketing and cold-calling. So, for all of you confused on the whole wearing two hats thing, I worked as a guard for MONEY because contract commissions came from sales only and we were in the process of discussing pay for marketing. Yeah, my fault for thinking he’d ever pay me.
Secondly, I DID end the conversation. There were two more texts that I did not include in this posting that were more graphic and uncomfortable in nature, but my text that night ended with “get some sleep”. It would easily have been a successful harassment case, as he was dumb enough to put everything in writing.
Third, to address all the “bad decisions” – no, not treating everything like I’m a victim. You usually don’t find out someone’s true colors until you’re stuck with them, or until they think you’re stuck with them. Why do you think so many marriages end up in divorce?